Our cat had all four roommates feeding him each day because he acted like he was starving and we didn’t know that the other roommate already fed him. This was our solution, hopefully he will slim down a bit.
Everyone should aspire to a cat’s understanding of healthy relationships
-they are vocal about their emotional as well as physical needs (alerting you when they need affection or entertainment in addition to when they need food), demonstrating an excellent example of self care and open communication
– they can enjoy being in a space with you while you’re each doing your own thing, demonstrating the healthy boundaries and separate interests
– they also like learning about what you’re doing and being involved in your hobbies (e.g. sitting on your laptop, cuddling while you read a book or knit a scarf or play a game)
-they consistently enforce their boundaries. first with nonverbal communication, then verbal (hissing/growling), then violence (scratching/biting) when needed, demonstrating that it’s 100% appropriate to defend your bodily autonomy by any means necessary, even against those you love and depend on.
-they demonstrate the importance of ongoing consent by respecting their ability to change their mind during physical affection and stop at any point
y’all ever see a sibling interaction in media and just know….it was written by an only child
the thing about siblings is I wanted a dog and I got a younger sister and then a younger brother instead and you love them and would die for them but you’re also ready to take them out at any second zero (0) hesitation and because you’re forced to spend all of your time with these other humans for like the first 20 years of your lives all of that love and anger manifests itself into sarcasm and arguments and tricking them into doing stupid shit that you knew would end bad and it’s all surrounded by a constant refrain of “don’t tell mom”
I don’t know a single set of siblings that shows their love and devotion to each other by always getting along and always being super affectionate and supportive all while calling each other “big sis” and “little bro” (if i wanted to be that condescending I would do better than pointing out birth order) but that doesn’t mean they don’t love each other it’s just shown in different ways
“A thousand live bats fluttered from the walls and ceiling while a thousand more swooped over the tables in low black clouds, making the candles in the pumpkins stutter. The feast appeared suddenly on the golden plates, as it had at the start-of-term banquet.”
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